Parenting does not come with a manual and along the way we make mistakes. It is human nature to make mistakes, but there are some that we can avoid.
Today’s Parents are too quick to swoop in. We don’t want our children to fall, so instead of letting them experience the ‘fall’, we clear the path. We remove obstacles to make their life easy. But we need to ask ourselves the following:
How easy can life be?
Is this right for a parent to do?
Of what good is it to the child?
How does this impact on the child’s future?
Parents are always there to swoop in and “bail out” their kids. If the child does not like their school, they get transferred to another school, if the child did not make it in the team, mummy has a talk with the principal.
Our children expect things handed to them in a silver platter. No working to get what they want. It gets worse when technology comes in and everything is just a simple tap away. In their adult life,reality sets in and they may not be able to maneuver through ways to solve problems that may arise. If I have trouble with my boss, I won’t call mummy to come rescue me,I will find ways to solve or cope with what is going on. This might not be the same case to someone who had their parents there clear every obstacle for them.
What about the expectations that our children have from us? We set the bars so high, provide the latest fashion, latest gadgets, without having some form of learning to teach your child that they have to work for what they want.Later on in their adult life, these expectations will reflect in their everyday life. They will expect to be handed their promotions as easily as they were handed new phones.
Your child’s future depends on the teachings they get while they are children. Mistakes are a normal occurrence and learning how to handle them is of paramount importance.
From a previous teens meeting with Mr T Mwangi, he mentioned that our children are not moved by hard work. They are moved by latest gadgets. They can easily swipe from one application to the next and they mirror this to the real world. When reality hits that the real world does not operate on a swiping basis, disappointment and depression set in. They see themselves as inferior good for nothing. Having the knowledge and expertise of how to handle a 21st requires a 360 turn around.
We find ourselves pampering our children in the name of giving them better than we had in our child days. While it is not wrong, it requires a wise way to go about. Join us on the 11th of September as we talk about this topic in depth from 8-9.30PM.
Topic: Mistakes Parents Make
When: 11th September ( Saturday) 2020
Charges: Kes 200
Till number: 7003827